Thank you for the essay, most of all because it takes relationships out of simplistic pigeon holes we want them to be in (right, wrong) and spreads them across complexities, nuances, unconscious drivers, expectations, fears, hopes, conflicts and uncertainty. For 18 years I lived with a woman with border line personality disorder sometimes manifesting as paranoid schizophrenia and severe depression. I did because to have a life where I could breath and have my life felt according to the guidance of my mother and others to be wrong, undutiful. I went through torture to leave and a suicide attempts by the person I was leaving. Things worked out, I have a better life and it was messy, hard, heartbreaking, miserable and ultimately freeing.